What is Coaching? Coaching is a tool that helps you gain direction, confidence and clarity. It is done by talking and deciding on weekly "assignments" to initiate action. Through open-ended and carefully crafted questions you move towards a destination (goal) of your determination. Your coach is a safe, supportive, and enthusiastic guide.
Is coaching right for me? Coaching is only effective if you are willing and committed to actively dealing with your issues and concerns. You must be willing to be an open and equal partner in the process.
By being honest in responding to questions, open to considering new thoughts and ideas, and committed to agreed upon assignments, you will be able to take the steps necessary to arrive at whatever destination you choose. [ A new job, understanding how to live a more comfortable life with your children, the tools to wake up in the morning feeling happy instead of despairing-- these are all destinations.]
I have a disorder (OCD, ADD etc). Can coaching help? The pathways that take us through life can be difficult to navigate if our roadmap comes from a “neuroatypical” brain. And one out of ten people share this difficulty, arising from having OCD, ADD, misophonia or a host of other neurological disorders.
Relationships and emotions are often viewed from behind a lens of heightened emotions and heightened physiological responses to the world. Coaching is uniquely positioned to help those of us who are neuroatypical arrive at our internal wisdom, by clearing away the debris that comes from the need to control and feelings of separateness, shame and blame.
How does coaching work? Coaching is a process of discovery, based on the premise that you (the client) already know the answers. It is simply a matter of bringing forth those answers through discovery.
In an atmosphere of empowerment and acceptance, you are safe and encouraged to think through and answer questions that have no wrong answers. It is an atmosphere that leads to decision-making and forward movement.
Is coaching like therapy? No. Coaching is not therapy, and I am not a therapist. It differs in that therapy looks at your past to work through long-term issues, problems, and neuroses. If you want to tackle deep-seated problems, want to explore medical interventions and pharmacy-related solutions, or need therapy to resolve life-long issues, coaching is not appropriate. Clinical social workers, psychologists, psychotherapists, or psychiatrists would be better suited for your needs.
Coaching focuses on the here and now. Therapy can last for years. Coaching can be as short term as four weeks.